What’s It Like?

Okay, what is what like? What is it like being a transgender woman? I am not talking about what’s it like to live as a woman who’s sex assigned at birth doesn’t match her gender identity, but that internal sense or feeling of my being a woman. It is possible that it is no different […]

A Daughter and Her Father

And Her Mother Too. A little over a year ago during the holidays of 2019 I came out to my parents as a transgender woman. It was well received by my father. Although, he did point blank ask if I was on hormones, and what I was going to do about my hair. My mother […]

Saying “Fuck” to Passing

I got the idea to write a post about saying “fuck” to passing from reading Rachel Ann Williams’ chapter: “Learning to say ‘fuck’ to passing” in her book Transgressive (for my review of this book see – A Review of a Transgender Book). As I now remember little about the specifics of this chapter or […]

It’s Legal, Yay!

After initiating a legal name change this summer I am legally Stephie Iris. I posted about what had transpired so far towards this destination in One More Step to My Legal Name Change. I left off there at the publication of the legal notice of the petition. Thursday I decided to check the progress of my […]

Don’t Define Me

I recently received a free 3 month trial of Amazon Prime’s Kindle Unlimited when I purchase a new Kindle. Since, then (mid-September) I have read a number of transgender and gender diverse books.1 The quality and substance fell into a range of very good to horrendous. But, that is not the point of this post. […]

Why is This Bothering Me So Much?

[Note – So you might be better able to follow the flow of this post, it was written at different times in order of when they were written, so every thing in present terms. It made sense to me, so I wouldn’t need to go back and change tenses. I think it gives a better […]

Gender Dysphoria vs. Body Dysphoria

I have thought about writing a post of this nature for awhile, but recently I had an added incentive for wanting to write it. I had a telephone intake on 9/1/20 for bottom surgery. Initially the person conducting the intake, who is a transwoman herself, said having the surgery is not about if your trans […]

Review of “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves”

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community, Laura Erickson-Schroth, 2014 This book attempts to do for transgender and gender non-confirming persons (TGNC) what <Our Bodies, Ourselves</i> has done for women. It is fairly comprehensive in its treatment of trans* community† with over 600 pages of text, including a glossary. Each chapter is […]

I am Privileged

In a way I feel privileged to be a transwoman because I am one of the few that gets to be on this amazing journey, but it certainly does not privilege me in society. In some societies in the past certain transwomen† were privileged. They held special spiritual positions in their societies. Today this is […]

I Have A New Provider

I had a most wonderful visit with a new provider—A psych provider. She is a psychiatric nurse practitioner. The reason why I am seeing her is specifically to get a letter of recommendation from a competent mental health provider for vaginoplasty surgery. WPATH’s Standard of Care (SOC) recommendations for this surgery includes two letters from […]