Hi Mom, It’s Your Daughter Stephie

I was sitting in a Zoom group for the mental health program I attend, and someone brought up the notion of writing a letter to someone expressing your thoughts and feelings about that person, and then not even sending it, or maybe even destroying it. This gave me the idea for this post—write a letter […]

It’s a Name Thing – 3

Okay, I have written two previous posts on this topic, sharing both the good and the bad (one might think my name is important to me, well like many other, probably most, transgender individuals it is). Since then, my name has been legally change to Stephie Iris. It has also been changed with Social Security, […]

What’s It Like?

Okay, what is what like? What is it like being a transgender woman? I am not talking about what’s it like to live as a woman who’s sex assigned at birth doesn’t match her gender identity, but that internal sense or feeling of my being a woman. It is possible that it is no different […]

I am not a Guy

Everyone got that. This is my response to being included in the phrase “you guys” or it’s use at all in mixed company. “Oh, don’t be so sensitive Stephie, it’s not meant to misgender anyone, it is just a common phrase you use to address a group.” Well, I will, hopefully, explain way I am […]

A Daughter and Her Father

And Her Mother Too. A little over a year ago during the holidays of 2019 I came out to my parents as a transgender woman. It was well received by my father. Although, he did point blank ask if I was on hormones, and what I was going to do about my hair. My mother […]

Saying “Fuck” to Passing

I got the idea to write a post about saying “fuck” to passing from reading Rachel Ann Williams’ chapter: “Learning to say ‘fuck’ to passing” in her book Transgressive (for my review of this book see – A Review of a Transgender Book). As I now remember little about the specifics of this chapter or […]

Don’t Define Me

I recently received a free 3 month trial of Amazon Prime’s Kindle Unlimited when I purchase a new Kindle. Since, then (mid-September) I have read a number of transgender and gender diverse books.1 The quality and substance fell into a range of very good to horrendous. But, that is not the point of this post. […]

Why is This Bothering Me So Much?

[Note – So you might be better able to follow the flow of this post, it was written at different times in order of when they were written, so every thing in present terms. It made sense to me, so I wouldn’t need to go back and change tenses. I think it gives a better […]

How Transitioning Has Taken Over My Life

Actually, it began before I started to live my life as a woman. Even before I fully identified as a woman. I remember during the four years of exploring my femininity before identifying as a woman how I look forward to every chance I could get to get dressed up and explore my body sexually.† […]

I am Privileged

In a way I feel privileged to be a transwoman because I am one of the few that gets to be on this amazing journey, but it certainly does not privilege me in society. In some societies in the past certain transwomen† were privileged. They held special spiritual positions in their societies. Today this is […]